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Sure, I'll likely tell you to Google the answers to your questions, but I might just take the time to explain to you why it's not OK to ask what my partner's old name was or whether he's had "the surgery." And here's a freebie: Don't ask someone if they've had "the surgery." There is no single surgery that all trans people desire, and more importantly, not all trans people desire or have access to surgery, hormones, or medical interventions of any kind.
Also, like the inquiries about someone's sex life, it's just none of your business. Our sexual orientation is distinct from our partner's gender identity.
I call this my "Mama Bear" instinct, in an effort to make adorable something I'm pretty sure annoys my partner.
Over the years, my partner has built up a necessarily thick skin when it comes to transphobic microagressions — the intentional misgendering, invasive questions, or challenges to his identity.
We asked a few trans individuals to describe their experiences looking for love.My skin is notably thinner — and I don't think I'm alone in that.Perhaps because we, as cis people, aren't used to experiencing such slights on a daily basis, we tend to be quicker to go on the defensive.Because both my partner and I identified as queer before we met — and because I met him after he began his transition — we've never had to navigate the often tumultuous waters of being in love while one partner transitions.Instead, we find ourselves often navigating the equally murky waters of fighting to be visible in a culture that broadly perceives us as heterosexual.