Tips for dating intelligent women
Does that describe anybody else besides those brilliant men you’re drawn to? And I wouldn’t be all that shocked if it somewhat described you as well. And I put up with the same things that you have to deal with from men – selfishness, difficulty, self-righteousness and so on. Because most of our lives are not spent discussing the finer points of Proust, or the best way to fix the 2-party system, or the science behind String Theory… My wife hasn’t done any of that personal growth stuff and you know what?
But I spent the first 35 years of my life chasing women who were just like me – the smartest women in the room. Have you ever been with a brilliant guy who is, at heart, a miserable person? And I’ll bet you’d do it again – hoping for a different ending this time. My female friends want it all, height, money, intelligence, looks, full head of hair etc…the guys i know who have it all(for the most part) are happy with a fun, attractive girl.
The problem is that a man isn't a roadblock at the office.
A man is his own person and only he can make the decision to commit, be accountable, treat you right, and work on keeping the passion in the connection.
Once you become the worker bee, the dynamic shifts.
He's the queen bee and men don't want to be queens.
He'll take you for granted and decide things on his clock, like if he's going to call you back, if he wants to see you, if he wants your sex. When you can soften your edges and turn your rough, severe corners into cushiony, velvety textures, you will draw him closer.
” If I had a dollar for the number of women who have said that to me, well, let’s just say I’d be writing this from Tahiti, not Los Angeles.
And I can’t disagree with you: attraction is NOT a choice.
They can be endlessly fascinating and even more frustrating. And yet you still say you want a man who is smarter than you are. Sounds like a pretty exhausting relationship, doesn’t it? It does mean that you need to accept men who are not in the 98th percentile of intelligence, and recognize that there are plenty of amazing, bright, relationship-oriented men who may not be smarter than you.
They have enough information and ammunition to be impossible to argue with. That does NOT mean that you are going to find yourself with a man who has never read a newspaper, who has no interest in foreign travel, or who can’t keep up with you and your friends.